Let’s agree as a community to stop doing this ladies.
Stop being a people pleaser.
Yep. I said it.
Being a people pleaser eats up more than your time, it eats up your capacity to create and attract.
When you get to a certain level in your business, your time is more valuable than squeezing every second for every last dime.
(And well, isn't it always? But it becomes more apparent, when you realize there is so MUCH you WANT to do in your business and only 24 hours in a day. That ain’t changing anytime soon.)
Your time becomes that much more precious as you scale your business and income, and that means you’re going to have to say a lot more “No” than “Yes”.
This week in the Letting Go to Let In challenge, if you haven’t guessed it, I am talking about the art of saying NO in your business.
No. No, thank you. Nope. Nada. Not today.
This email to you is arriving in your inbox on a Tuesday.
Most likely, you have created your To-Do list (or whatever you like to call it) for the week. And we’re going to carve out 2 hours of time you don’t think you have. Ready?
You’ve already got your Big Rocks, or the Big Frogs to Eat list, or the Empire Building List, or the Big 3 for the week, and the strategies and tactics that support that list, or the Make $hit Happen list.
You know, those To Do List methods created by men?
Whatever you call it, take a look at it now.
1. For each item, put an approximate time that you think it would take to get that task done. Ballpark is fine.
2. Next, go down each item again and take a moment to check in with your body as you do (remember Part 1 of this challenge about how important the Body is in creating what you want?
Does that task feel expansive or contracted?
Draining or energizing?
This may be hard at first, especially if you are not used to checking with your body, but you will get better with practice.
3. Label each To Do item. D for draining or E for energizing.
We are almost there. But this is the exciting part.
4. Next, take the “D”s and cross off any D-List items that total approximately 2 hours.
Just cross them off.
Yep just like that. Cross them off your to-do list.
Notice your body’s reaction to that prompt.
Are you freaking out and think this is absolutely impossible, that your business will crumble, your life will implode, and everyone will hate you?
You are not alone.
You can ask yourself these questions…
What I am afraid will happen?
Who will I let down?
I have felt it all with crossing things completely off my list.
Liberated. Scared. Irresponsible (in a good way) and irresponsible (in a bad way).
Most likely the tasks that are draining are connected to you wanting to please someone else, not wanting to burden someone else, or not asking for support.
Or, these tasks are not in your zone of genius.
Consider this practice to stop people-pleasing, and stop trying to do things that aren’t what you do best — because stopping those two behaviors will create the space for creativity - and money - to flow.
Because, really: Leveraging your money is about leveraging your time.
If you want your time back this week and want to increase your income, enjoy your life more fully, and be a happier person. Learn to say no more than you say yes.
More about how to garner support with your D-List tasks next week.
Stay tuned and until then,
All my best,
If you missed Part 1 of the Letting Go to Let In series, you can find it here.