Do You Have a Mean Girl in Your Life?

Jan 15, 2019

You’re smarter than her, so why’s she still around?

The Mean Girl . . . oh, she’s a devil. Deceitful, sneaky, conniving, jealous, a little sassy, and a big talker. You know the one.

When she’s all up in your face, you just can’t seem to shake her. She knows just when to show up–when you’re down and out or when you’re about to go for something big or change an old pattern. She loves to ask the question in her snarky fashion, “Why are you doing that? Are you sure you want to do that, you might get hurt, look stupid, fail, etc, etc?”

Look, what it all boils down to is that we all want to be seen and heard. All of us. In our relationship with our spouses, our parents, our bosses. We want to be noticed, cared about, to be appreciated, and/or be acknowledged.

This includes the three identities within us: Your Mean Girl (aka your ego, aka your gremlin), your Inner Child, and your Wise, Older Woman. And it’s up to you–the one who’s supposed to be running the show–to be that person that sees and hears those other three voices.

If you’re struggling with a problem in an area of your life–be it money, or love, or health–these are the girls you want to check in with first. Why’s that? They all have something very important to tell you, and you’ve been ignoring one, two, or all three of them . . . and when they feel they’re not acknowledged, they aren’t happy.

What are you talking about, Christine? These “voices” in my head?

If you’re desire is to make more money–and you have to go out of your comfort zone to do that–which thoughts pop up first? Most likely your Mean Girl, asking those same “Are you sure?” questions over and over. She gets a lot of airtime–in which you’re either held hostage to what she’s saying or you ignore her so that you don’t even know what she’s really trying to tell you.

Next time the Mean Girl steps up, take a moment to get curious and inquire why she’s showing up–what does she need to tell you? Get still, listen, and then move forward from there. When you listen to those voices–which are essentially feelings–you’re working on self-awareness. You’re creating personal power and you choose from a different, more empowered space.

We all want to be seen and heard . . .

That’s one of the main reasons why we hire coaches . . . so someone sees us and listens to us. All the parts of us–the good, the bad, and the ugly–with complete non-judgment. This, in turn, frees us up to actually go out and create what we truly desire for ourselves, our business, our livelihoods, and our legacies much quicker than we would on our own.

Until next time, much abundance to you in all its forms.

Photo Credit: Carolina Heza,

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